Proverbs 17:14 Cross References - ISV

¹⁴ Starting a quarrel is like spilling water— so drop the dispute before it escalates.

⁸ So Abram told Lot, “Please, let’s not have strife between you and me, or between your herdsmen and my herdsmen, since we are relatives. ⁹ Isn’t the whole land available to you? Let’s separate: If you go to the left, then I will go to the right; if you go to the right, then I will go to the left.”

¹ Gideon Assuages the Anger of EphraimLater on, the descendants of Ephraim spoke to Gideon. They argued vehemently, “What are you doing to us? You never called us! But you went out to fight Midian!”
² “What have I accomplished compared to you?” he responded. “Isn’t what’s left from Ephraim’s harvest better than the best vintage of Abiezer? ³ God gave Oreb and Zeeb, the leaders of Midian, into your control. What was I able to do compared to you?” When he said this, their anger calmed down.

¹ Jephthah’s Dispute with the Tribe of EphraimA little while later, the army of Ephraim was mustered, and they crossed to Zaphon. They confronted Jephthah and asked, “Why did you cross over to fight the Ammonites without calling us to accompany you? We’re going to burn your house down around you!”
² But Jephthah replied to them, “My army and I were engaged in a serious fight with the Ammonites. I called for you, but you didn’t deliver me from their control. ³ When I saw that you wouldn’t be delivering me, I took my own life in my hands, crossed over to fight the Ammonites, and the LORD gave them into my control. So why have you come here today to fight me?” ⁴ Then Jephthah mustered all the men of Gilead, fought the tribe of Ephraim, and defeated them, because they had been claiming, “You descendants of Gilead are fugitives in the midst of the tribes of Ephraim and Manasseh.”
⁵ Shibboleth vs. SibbolethThe descendants of Gilead seized control of the Jordan River’s fords along the border of Ephraim’s territory. Later on, when any fugitive from Ephraim asked them, “Let me cross over,” the men from Gilead would ask him, “Are you an Ephraimite?” If he said “No,” ⁶ they would order him, “Pronounce the word ‘Shibboleth’ right now.” If he said “Sibboleth,” not being able to pronounce it correctly, they would seize him and slaughter him there at the fords of the Jordan River. During those days 42,000 descendants of Ephraim died that way.

¹⁴ Abner told Joab, “Let’s have the young men get up and fight in our presence.”
Joab replied, “Let them come.”
¹⁵ So they got up and twelve were counted to represent Benjamin and Saul’s son Ish-bosheth and twelve to represent members of David’s staff. ¹⁶ Each man grabbed his opponent by the head, plunged his sword into his opponent’s side, and then they both fell together. That’s why the place at Gibeon was named The Field of Swords. ¹⁷ The battle was very violent that day, with Abner and the men of Israel being defeated in the presence of David’s servants.

⁴¹ Petty Quarrels Arise between Israel and JudahNot long afterward, all the men of Israel started coming to the king, complaining to him, “Why did our relatives in Judah’s army sneak you away, taking the king and his household over the Jordan River, along with David’s army?”

¹⁴ Instead, Rehoboam spoke to them along the lines of what the younger men suggested. He told them “My father burdened you heavily, but I will add to that burden. If my father disciplined you with whips, I will, too—with scorpions!”
¹⁵ The king would not listen to the people because the turn of events was from God, so that the LORD might fulfill his prediction that he spoke through Nebat’s son Ahijah the Shilonite. ¹⁶ All of Israel—since the king wasn’t going to listen to them—the people responded to the king, “What’s the point in following David? We have no inheritance in the descendants of Jesse. Let’s go home, Israel! David, take care of your own household!’ So all of Israel left for home.

¹⁷ Abijah and his army defeated them in a tremendous slaughter that resulted in 500,000 special forces from Israel being slain.

¹⁷ Israel Defeats Judah
After this, King Amaziah of Judah sought some advice and then challenged Jehoahaz’ son King Joash of Israel, the grandson of Jehu, telling him, “Come out and let’s fight each other!”
¹⁸ But King Joash of Israel replied to King Amaziah of Judah, “There once was a thorn bush in Lebanon that sent an invitation to the cedar of Lebanon that read ‘Give your daughter to my son in marriage.’ Right about then, a wild animal in Lebanon passed by and trampled the thorn bush. ¹⁹ You claim you’ve defeated Edom, but you’re really only puffed up with arrogant boasting. So stay home. Why stir up trouble so you die, and the rest of Judah with you?”
²⁰ But Amaziah refused to listen, because the situation was being orchestrated by God in order to turn them over to the control of their enemies because they had pursued those Edomite gods. ²¹ So King Joash of Israel went out to battle against King Amaziah of Judah, and they fought at Beth-shemesh, which is part of Judah’s territory. ²² Judah was defeated by Israel, and every soldier ran home. ²³ King Joash of Israel captured Joash’s son King Amaziah of Judah, the grandson of Ahaziah, at Beth-shemesh and brought him back to Jerusalem, where he broke down 400 cubits of the wall of Jerusalem from the Ephraim Gate to the Corner Gate. ²⁴ He confiscated all the gold, silver, and utensils that he could find in the care of Obed-edom inside of God’s Temple and inside the royal palace. Then he took some hostages and returned to Samaria.

⁶ Remaliah’s son Pekah killed 120,000 soldiers in a single day, all of them elite forces, because they had forsaken the LORD God of their ancestors.

¹⁰ Arrogance only brings quarreling, but those receiving advice are wise.

²⁹ Being slow to get angry compares to great understanding as being quick-tempered compares to stupidity.

¹ How to Live Wisely A gentle response diverts anger, but a harsh statement incites fury.

³² Whoever controls his temper is better than a warrior, and anyone who has control of his spirit is better than someone who captures a city.

¹⁹ The person who loves transgression loves strife; the person who builds a high gate invites destruction.

¹¹ A person’s discretion makes him slow to anger, and it is to his credit that he ignores an offence.

³ Avoiding strife brings a man honor, but every fool is quarrelsome.

⁸ don’t be in a hurry to argue in court. Otherwise, what will you do later on when your neighbor humiliates you?

²¹ Charcoal is to hot coals as wood is to fire; so also a quarrelsome man fuels strife.

²² An angry man stirs up arguments, and a hot-tempered man causes many transgressions.

⁸ The conclusion of something is better than its beginning, and a patient attitude is more valuable than a proud one. ⁹ Never be in a hurry to become internally angry, since anger settles down in the lap of fools.

³⁹ But I tell you not to resist an evildoer. On the contrary, whoever slaps you on the right cheek, turn the other to him as well. ⁴⁰ If anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, let him have your coat as well. ⁴¹ And if anyone forces you to go one mile, go two with him.

¹ Seven Men are Chosen to Help the ApostlesIn those days, as the number of the disciples was growing larger and larger, a complaint was made by the Hellenistic Jews against the Hebraic Jews that their widows were being neglected in the daily distribution of food. ² So the Twelve called the whole group of disciples together and said, “It is not desirable for us to neglect messages from God in order to wait on tables. ³ Therefore, brothers, appoint seven men among you who have a good reputation, who are full of the Spirit and wisdom, and we’ll put them in charge of this work. ⁴ Then we’ll devote ourselves to prayer and to the ministry of the word.”
⁵ This suggestion pleased the whole group. So they chose Stephen, a man full of faith and the Holy Spirit, Philip, Prochorus, Nicanor, Timon, Parmenas, and Nicolaus, a gentile convert to Judaism from Antioch.

² Paul and Barnabas had quite a dispute and argument with them. So Paul and Barnabas and some of the others were appointed to go up to Jerusalem to confer with the apostles and elders about this question. ³ They were sent on their way by the church, and as they were going through Phoenicia and Samaria they told of the conversion of the gentiles and brought great joy to all the brothers. ⁴ When they arrived in Jerusalem, they were welcomed by the church, the apostles, and the elders, and they reported everything that God had done through them. ⁵ But some believers from the party of the Pharisees stood up and said, “The gentiles must be circumcised and ordered to keep the Law of Moses.”
⁶ So the apostles and the elders met to look into this claim. ⁷ After a lengthy debate, Peter stood up and told them, “Brothers, you know that in the early days, God chose me to be the one among you through whom the gentiles would hear the message of the gospel and believe. ⁸ God, who knows everyone’s heart, showed them he approved by giving them the Holy Spirit, just as he did to us. ⁹ He made no distinction between them and us, because of their faith-cleansed hearts. ¹⁰ So why do you test God by putting on the disciples’ neck a yoke that neither our ancestors nor we could carry? ¹¹ We certainly believe that it is through the grace of the Lord Jesus, the Messiah, that we are saved, just as they are.”
¹² The whole crowd was silent as they listened to Barnabas and Paul tell about all the signs and wonders that God had done through them among the gentiles. ¹³ After Paul and Barnabas had finished speaking, James responded, “Brothers, listen to me: ¹⁴ Simeon has explained how God first showed his concern for the gentiles by taking from among them a people for his name. ¹⁵ This agrees with the words of the prophets. As it is written, ¹⁶ ‘“After this, I will come back and set up David’s fallen tent again. I will restore its ruined places and set it up again ¹⁷ so that the rest of the people may search for the Lord, including all the gentiles who are called by my name,’ declares the Lord. ‘He is the one who has been doing these things ¹⁸ that have been known from long ago.’
¹⁹ “Therefore, I have decided that we should not trouble these gentiles who are turning to God. ²⁰ Instead, we should write to them to keep away from things polluted by idols, from sexual immorality, from anything strangled, and from blood. ²¹ After all, Moses has had people to proclaim him in every city for generations, and on every Sabbath his books are read aloud in the synagogues.”

¹⁸ If possible, so far as it depends on you, live in peace with all people.

¹¹ Also, make it your goal to live quietly, to mind your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we instructed you,

²³ Do not have anything to do with foolish and stupid discussions, because you know they breed arguments. ²⁴ A servant of the Lord must not argue. Instead, he must be kind to everyone, teachable, willing to suffer wrong,

¹⁴ But if you have bitter jealousy and rivalry in your hearts, stop boasting and slandering the truth. ¹⁵ That kind of wisdom does not come from above. No, it is worldly, self-centered, and demonic. ¹⁶ For wherever jealousy and rivalry exist, there is disorder and every kind of evil.
¹⁷ However, the wisdom that comes from above is first of all pure, then peace-loving, gentle, willing to yield, full of compassion and good deeds, and without a trace of partiality or hypocrisy. ¹⁸ And a harvest of righteousness is grown from the seed of peace planted by peacemakers.