22 But Jesus replied to her, “You [really] do not know what you are asking for. Are you able to drink the cup [i.e., of suffering] that I am about to drink?” They [i.e., James, John and their mother. See Mark 10:35ff] answered, “[Yes] we are able to.”
Matthew 20:22 Cross References - AUV
Matthew 26:35
35 Peter replied to Him, “Even if I have to die with you, still I will not deny [knowing] you.” And all [the rest of] the disciples said the same thing.
Matthew 26:39
39 And He went on ahead a short distance and fell face-down and prayed, “My Father, allow this cup [i.e., of suffering] to pass away from me if it is [at all] possible; nevertheless, let it not be what I want, but what You want [for me].”
Matthew 26:42
42 He [then] went away a second time and prayed, “My Father, if this [cup of suffering] cannot pass away unless I drink it [i.e., experience the suffering], [then] let what You want be done.”
Matthew 26:56
56 But all this has happened so that the Scriptures of the prophets would be fulfilled.” Then all of His disciples left Him and ran away.
Mark 10:38-39
38 But Jesus said to them, “You [really] do not know what you are asking for. Are you able to drink the cup [i.e., of suffering] that I will drink? Or [are you able] to be immersed with the immersion that I am [to be] immersed with?” [i.e., to be overwhelmed with agony].
39 And they said to Him, “ [Yes], we are able to.” And Jesus said to them, “The cup [of suffering] that I [will] drink, you [also] will drink. And the immersion [with agony] with which I am [to be] immersed, you [also] will be immersed.
Mark 14:36
36 So, He said, “Abba, [which means] Father, everything is possible with you. Take this cup [i.e., of suffering] away from me; however, let it not be what I want but what you want for me.”
Luke 12:50
50 But I have an immersion to experience [i.e., overwhelming suffering to undergo. See Mark 10:38-39], and what stress I am under until it happens!
Luke 22:42
42 saying, “Father, if you are willing, take this cup [i.e., of suffering] away from me; nevertheless, let it not be what I want, but what you want [for me].”
John 18:11
11 Then Jesus said to Peter, “Put your sword back in its sheath. Should I not drink the cup [i.e., of suffering] the Father has given me?”
Romans 8:26
26 And in the same way, the Holy Spirit helps [us in] our weakness; for we do not know what we ought to pray for [Note: Some translators understand this as “how to pray”]. But the Holy Spirit goes to God on our behalf with groanings [in our hearts] that are not expressed [in words].
James 4:3
3 [When] you do ask, you do not receive it, because you ask from wrong motives, [just] so you can satisfy your own pleasures.